double-touch: the simple practice for lasting connection

maybe what we call connection is presence, offered twice.

Double-touch is the simple practice of meeting a new acquaintance — or reconnecting with someone — twice in a short span of time. When the first interaction is still fresh, a quick follow-up creates a sense of continuity and ease. The second meeting often feels more vivid and grounded — it builds on momentum, opens the door to deeper relationship, and helps turn a passing conversation into a more lasting connection.

Why it works

The double-touch is a familiar move in romantic situations — hanging out again soon to keep the spark of a first encounter going. It works for friendships and professional connections, too. A timely second meetup helps you remember what clicked the first time, skip the small talk, and open the door to more meaningful discussion.

For instance, you go to happy hour with a former colleague you haven’t seen in years. Time flies. You talk about work, family, current events. The next day, you text to suggest checking out an art exhibit that weekend. You walk and talk, discovering shared interests and going deeper on some topics. That second meetup, the double-touch, gives the connection a lift.

How to begin

1. Follow up fast. Reach out while energy is still warm. If the vibe is good, float the idea of a next meetup at the first one.

2. Keep it low-pressure. Suggest something casual: a coffee, a walk, a shared event, or even a virtual check-in. The goal isn’t to impress—it’s to create space for connection.

3. Build on the first meeting. Pick up on something you talked about the first time and take it to another level.